To the Woman Out there
Today,creating a happy family life is all about sharing responsibilities and having fun together. Not asking for help with the chores implies that you are accepting responsibility for them,and you end up pleading for assistance rather than having a well- defined agreement in place. Sharing is a much healthier concept,and it will help you maintain lower stress levels.
If you have a possessive nature for all things household,you are robbing your loved ones the opportunity to develop valuable life skills. Are you teaching your teenage son to be a couch potato? If so,think of your future daughter-in-law. Are you,by your example,setting your daughter up to be a do-it-all type of wife who will have no time for herself?
Delegating effectively requires that you be a patient teacher until the student has learned,after which you must have the foresight to let go.A mother eagle spends time nurturing her young,but instinctively knows that her most important role is to push her offspring out of the nest,trusting that they will be able to fly. Amazingly,they do!
Avoid the temptation to take over. A friend of mine said, ” I don’t have the time to teach my kids how to cook. If they do it,I know it will be a mess . I ‘ll get mad and have to clean up after them.”
Okay,so your white socks end up blue and your best wool sweater now fits the cat.Be patient,it will get better. Start by giving up control of the easy tasks,and learn to bite your tongue. Delegating frees up your time. The bonus is that the kids (or people in your office) will feel valued, knowing that you trust them to get the job done.
Delegating Tips(For Home or Office)
- Be specific and clear in communicating your expectations.
- Have the other person verify what you said.
- Demonstrate how to do the task- if necessary,more than once.
- Be patient- encourage instead of criticizing.
- Resist redoing the job or over- correcting.
- Set high standards,but beware of perfectionism.
- Kids are not adults- give them time to learn.
Sometimes you just have to be willing to delegate and not feel like you are the only one with the answer-Ronald Moore