Forgiving Yourself

Everyone is human. We all make mistakes that needs to be forgiven. By forgiving yourself,you are choosing love over judgement. That’s a good choice. You are also sending notice that moving on with your life is more important than remaining in the emotional prison of self-condemnation.

There’s nothing you have done that cannot be forgiven,no matter how bad you think it is. Offer yourself with the olive branch of compassion and choose to love yourself instead.

As a child,I grew up believing I was going to be a saint,or at least a nun. In my mind,I pictured myself heading off to the convent to join the Medical Missionaries of Mary. Of course,I never came close to being holy enough. I would beat myself up unmercifully for every little infraction that took me further from my goal. It was a great relief when the convent burned down because it meant I didn’t need to be so good anymore.

We are so hard on ourselves,and we sometimes set such high moral standards. That’s no wonder we suffer. Here’s a five-step process to avoid this trap.

Steps To Forgiving Yourself

One: Accept What You Did

Take full responsibility for your actions or inactions.Confront the situation head on,no excuses or denial. I suggest you journal your thoughts. This will bring clarity,and help purge the memory. Allow yourself to be emotional. Release any pain you have,shed some tears if you need to.

Two: Confession

Confession is one of the oldest and best methods for unloading heavy burdens. It works. Confess to God,or someone else what you did. Nothing you have done,no shame deep enough,can separate you from God Talk to Him,let Him know your remorse and regret. Reconcile your relationship with God if you need to. Telling someone else is a bonus. We share our humanness by showing each other that we make mistakes. Letting go of the pain with someone you trust will prevent you from making excuses or living in denial.

Step Three: Give Up Self-Flaggelation

There is no value in continuing to punish yourself,even though you feel you deserve to be condemned. Remaining a victim will negatively affect the relationship you have with yourself and others.

Step Four:Make Ammends If Appropriate

A sincere apology or a verbal olive branch may be all that is required. Perhaps you need to return something or pay back money that you owe. A word of caution- for every choice,there’s a consequence. Sometimes you can create more damage by the way you make ammends. Be discerning. It’s imperative you proceed with the right intentions,having no expectations about the outcome.

Step Five:What Did You Learn?

Mistakes have a habit of reoccurring unless your eyes are wide open.I believe all of life’s experiences are designed to teach you something. If you have blinders on,you will miss the lesson and it’s significance to your life.

Learn to forgive yourself. Travel through life unburdened by guilt.It’s one of the best gifts you can give yourself and those you love.

Forgive Yourself First,

Release the need to replay a negative situation over and over in your mind. Don’t be a hostage to your past by always reviewing and reliving your mistakes. Don’t remind yourself of what should have,could have,or would have been. Release it and let it go. Move on-Les Brown

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Hi,my name is Omobola Stephen. I'm a happy-go-girl, full of zest and witty. My passion for writing,and researching is unreserved. I love to share about life's experiences which has helped shaped me into who I am presently and who I'm still going to become. If you do appreciate my blog post,kindly like,share,repost,and subscribe. Thank you.

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