Keep Your Marriage Healthy First
The relational foundation of any family is a couple’s marriage. It sets the tone for the household,and it is the model relationship that children learn from more than any other. That’s why former Notre Dame President Theodore Hesburg asserted, ” The most important thing a father can do for his children is love their mother.”
No marriage is easy to keep going. It’s been said that a successful marriage is one that can go from crisis to crisis with a growth in commitment. That is what it’s really all about: commitment is what carries you through. People who use their feelings as a barometer for the health of their marriage are destined for a breakup. If you intend to stay married only as long as you feel the love, you might as well give up. Just like anything else worth fighting for,marriage requires daily discipline and commitment.
Express Appreciation For Each Other
Psychologist William James said, “In every person from the cradle to the grave,there is a deep craving to be appreciated.” If people don’t receive affirmation and appreciation at home,there’s good chance they won’t get it outside because,in general, the world does not fulfil that desire. One of the most positive things you can do for your spouse and children is really get to know them and love them simply because they are yours- not based on performance.
Resolve Conflict As Quickly As Possible
Every family has conflict,but not all families resolve it positively. A family’s response to problems will either promote bonding or be destructive. Do it quickly and effectively and you bring healing.Neglect conflict, and you may find yourself agreeing with novelist F.Scott Fitzgerald,who said, “Family quarrels are bitter things. They don’t go according to any rules. They are not like aches or wounds,they are more like splits in the skin that won’t heal because there’s not enough material.” It doesn’t have to be that way. Once there’s a conflict,each should see their wrongs and effect change where necessary and most importantly,learn to apologize and move on.Life is too short to keep on holding grudges and resenting people. Recognize you are neither perfect and so put others in your shoes at all times.
If the family were a fruit,it would be an orange,a circle of sections held together but separable. Each segment disctint-Letty Cottin Pogrebin