If you have been to any kind of class reunion ten or more years after graduation then you ‘ve probably been suprised by the transformation of one of your former mate-the geek who founded a major coporation,the misfit who became a famous lawyer,the chatterbox who became a hollywood movie star,or the doormat who became a renowned scientist.How do such transformations occur? Those people changed how they thought of themselves. You saw them as they were(or how you thought they were),they saw themselves as they could be. Then they learned to act and acquire the skillls of the people they wanted to be.The transformation usually takes time.Often it is barely noticeable to those who see them everyday. But to someone who hasn’t seen them in ten,twenty,or thirty years,the transformation seems miraculous like a Caterpillar tranformed to a butterfly.
If you desire to change yourself,then start with your mind. Believe you can improve,that you can change into the person you desire to be. As Ralph Waldo Emerson puts it, “What lies behind us and what lies before us cannot be compared to what lies within us.” If your thinking changes,then everything else can follow.
What about placing High values on people? One of the secrets of maintaining a good attitude is valuing people. You can’t dislike people and have a good attitude at the same time. Think about it: Have you ever met anyone who always treated people badly but had a positive attitude? Likewise, you cannot have a bad attitude and encourage others at the same time.Encouraging others means helping people,looking for the best in them, and trying to bring out their positive qualities. That process drives negative thoughts right out of your head .
Your interaction with others sets the tone of your day. It’s like the music of your life. When your interaction with others is poor,it’s like having to listen to cacophonous music.But when you place a high value on people and you treat them well,it’s like listening to a sweet melody as you go through your day.
Develop A High Appreciation For Life
Appreciation isn’t a matter of taste or sophistication. It’s a matter of perspective. John Wooden said, “Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.” The place to start is with little things. If you can learn to appreciate them and be grateful for them,you will appreciate the big things as well as everything in between.
A story was told of an independent ninety year old lady who was moving into a nursing home. Since she was legally blind and her husband of seventy years had passed away,the move was her only option. She waited in the lobby of the facility for a long time before finally being told that her room was ready. As she was escorted down the corridor,her attendant described the room,down to the curtains hung on the windows.
“I love it,” the elderly lady enthused.
“But you haven’t even seen the room yet. Just wait,” responded the attendant.
“That doesn’t have anything to do with it. Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not, doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged. It’s how I arranged my mind.” She replied.
The most significant change in a person’s life is a change of attitude. Right attitude produces right actions-William J.Johnston