When you focus on building a healthy self-esteem,it will sustain you for a lifetime. It doesn’t t matter how tough your journey has been,how old you are,or how disadvantaged you perceive yourself to be,you can create this crucially important quality.
To have high self-esteem is to have a high regard for yourself. In the same vein,self-acceptance is accepting who you are,and that means all of you,just as you are.
The basic premise is,no matter what others may think of you,no matter what situations occur,no matter what you do,you are able to love and value yourself. Of course,this value does not restrict you from continually improving your skills,knowledge, or your habits.
Self-improvement never ends-It is a life long process. Above all else,you must understand that building self-esteem is an inside job. You build yourself from the inside out. Self-esteem is not determined by worldy success,physical appearance,popularity,or any other external value. It is accomplished by taking personal responsibility,having integrity,demonstrating competence,feeling worthy and embracing self-acceptance.
Confront the dark parts of yourself and work to banish them with illunination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing-August Wilson
I struggled with low self-esteem throughout most of my early life.When I became a Mom,I panicked. If there was one thing I looked out for in my children,it is for them to be confident,to love,and value themselves,to be audacious,and bold,and to be the best they can be. But how can I encourage them to have something that I do not boast to have myself?
When we do not have an inner sense of value,we often look elsewhere to create it. It is like having a void within us. The lower our self-esteem,the bigger the void,and the greater the yearning to fill it.This desire for them to turn out well jolted me into discovery and rediscovery of my true identity. I started reading books on the subject,get along with friends or colleagues who had self-esteem and be their secret learner. I had to really subject myself to a learning and relearning process. Today,I am grateful that I embarked on that journey. I am a very confident person and also have a healthy self-esteem. My kids are not left out too.
Building a healthy self-esteem doesn’t have to wear you out completely. You do not need to wear a mask so that your self-esteem will be strengthened. By this,I meant you trying to mainpulate others with the illusion that in the process,your self-esteem will be boosted. Approval seekers manipulate so that they will be liked or accepted.Victims manipulate individuals in the hope that they will be cared for- This gives them the illusion of power. Rescuers build the illusion of self-esteem by giving conditionally. We criticize other people to bring them down and raise ourselves up,or we attempt to control others so that we are in charge. The bottom line is that,we don’t think we have value unless someone else confirms it. But using people do not build self-esteem or self-worth,it only break relationships.
Your journey to being the real person you truly are starts with you. Start by asking yourself; What am I worth? And how can I maintain and sustain this important virtue? When you start to do this, you tend towards experiencing a brand new you and the urge to want others to accept you will fade completely.
One’s dignity may be assaulted,vandalized, and cruelly mocked. But it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered- Micheal J.Fox