It is impossible for a person to act or behave in a manner that is inconsistent with how he or she sees themselves. It is equally impossible for you to be in a resourceful state,demonstrating your best and highest capabilities, if you are consistently putting yourself down or,worse yet,allowing other people to belittle you.
What you tell yourself repeatedly is one of the major determinants to success in any given area of your life. What you listen to from other people is another key influencer of your behavior. Both of these,self-talk and talk from others,mold us and drives our behavior in any given situation.
Loving or hating the life you are living is solely all in your repeated self-talk
What Do You Say To Yourself?
First of,we may need to examine our self-talk more closely. Throughout the day,during every waking hour,we are carrying on a running dialogue with ourselves.We are thinking, or more accurately,talking to ourselves constantly. Hundreds of words per minute pass through our conscious minds as we go about our day.Unfortunately,for one reason or another,most people’s self-talk is negative. This is probably due to the number of negative messages we heard as we were growing up.This came from other,perhaps well-intentioned people or individuals who were themselves living in a negative reality. Much of it is from a steady stream if negativity bombarding us from Television,radio,newspapers, and magazines. Situation comedies for the most part,belittle people in the name of humor. And many game and reality shows place people in embarrassing situations further undermining their self-image.
When you make a mistake,how do you respond? What do you say to yourself when you have trouble figuring out a computer program for example? I have heard people tell themselves how stupid they are and how they never do anything right simply because they had trouble with a new software program. This is not only absurd and not true,it is quite damaging to your self-esteem.
What are you telling yourself? When you make a mistake,do you view it as just that,a mistake? Learn from it and make a point not to repeat it? Or do you start belittling yourself with a stream of negative self-talk? Do you recognize,as Billy Joel wrote in one of his songs, “You are only human,” and lighten up on yourself?
One of the reasons I have been able to learn new things easily is because growing up in the hands of uncles and aunts,they usually tell me I was very smart,and intelligent. I had never taken second position way back in elementary years,it’s either First or nothing. Being a young child, I believed this and began to behave in a manner consistent with their opinion.
While in high school and college, I have always found it easy to learn new things and to believe in myself. This helped me alot and made me come out in excellent grades.
To this day,I have a belief that learning is fun and easy and I reinforce that belief with self-talk.
Really,we behave and perform in a manner that is consistent with what we believe in ourselves. Our beliefs are molded by what we tell ourselves consistently. When you do something well,recognize it and reinforce the positive behavior with positive self-talk. Use the power of your self-talk to help develop the habits and characteristics you want to create.
No level of obstacle can prevail in crippling a mind that’s continously fed with positive self-talk -Edmond Mbiaka