https://wordpress.com/alp/?aff=21927&cid=2737302Many people get into trouble when their feelings and values collide. When you are feeling good and everything is going your way,it’s not difficult to consistently live out your values.However,when your values determine you should take an action that will hurt you or cost you something,it can be harder to follow through.
If one of your values is integrity and you found a bank bag of money on the street that you suspected was stolen,you probably wouldn’t have too difficult a time turning the money in to the police.But what if you saw your boss stealing from the company you work for and you knew that losing your job might cost you your house or ruin you financially. Successful people do what’s right no matter how they feel about it.They don’t expect to be able to feel their way into acting. They act first and then hope their feelings follow suit. Usually,that doesn’t involve anything dramatic. The tough decisions are the everyday ones. For example,if good health is one of my values,will I refrain from eating a big piece of chocolate even though I really want it? For me,to be successful,my values- not my feeling need to control my actions.
Managing your life according to your values isn’t an easy task because your values will always be tested daily by those who do not embrace them. Negative people may discount you when you display a positive attitude. People without families may not understand your devotion to your family. Unteachable people won’t understand your dedication to personal growth. And those whose priorities are different from yours will try to convince you to follow them or make unwise compromises.
If you don’t stick to your values when they are being tested,they are not values, they are hobbies- Jon Stewart
One good point to note is that managing something as abstract as your values is something you have to discipline yourself to do. Start by listing out your values on a notebook or writing pad. At the end of each day, spend a minute to review and reflect on each of the values so you can stay on track and be less likely to drift away from living out your values.
Begin putting them in concrete form,write a descriptive statement for each one explaining how you intend to apply it to your life and what benefit or direction that will bring.keep the document where you can see it everyday. Think about your values often to help them “soak in.” As you go through your day and face decisions,measure your choices against your values. And whenever it’s appropriate, talk about them. It not only cements your values in your mind and helps you to practice them but it also adds a level of accountability.
When you embrace your values wholeheartedly and articulate them continually,you dramatically increase your chances of living them. If you talk about your values but fail to walk them,then you will continually undermine your integrity and credibility. And that will happen even if you are unaware of your behavior and are not doing it intentionally.
It’s not hard to make decision when you know what your values are-Roy E.Disney