https://wordpress.com/alp/?aff=21927&cid=2736243As much as we come to understand that life is meant to be enjoyed,it may be of importance to know that life can show up in unexpected moments which is why Former Roman dictator, Julius Caesar,once said, “No one is so brave that he is not disturbed by something unexpected.”
Life is what happens when you are busy making plans. The unexpected is the key here. Trying to eliminate the unexpected in your life, making your path as safe as you can will be the only sure proof way to die of boredom. If challenges,suprises don’t show up,if unforseen contingencies don’t pop up,then what is left to do? Absolutely nothing.
Whichever way you see it,life appears to us in different shades and sizes. The people we trust or rely upon are often the ones who hurt us the most. Why is this so? It is because,we focus our energy in the wrong places. Instead of raising the expectation bar on these people,why not allow situations to happen naturally instead of trying to force it.Let life happen as the creator wanted it.
When things don’t happen as expected,it isn’t the time to keep up with the blame game,sulking,and bemoaning your sad fate,rather you should be strong enough to rise above it.
There was a period in my life when I was believing my partner for the gift of lovely brand new car. I had placed high hopes on it and when the gift finally came,it was less than my anticipation. At first,I appreciated the fact that he kept to his promise. “But not what I asked.” I mumbled to my self.
As I drove the car out few days after,I parked somewhere and had a proper look at the interior,I felt hollow afterwards and didn’t know when I began to sob. “I deserve more than what is being handed over to me.” I lamented. But really that was the truth. In between my brooding moment,a thought crept in. This time,it was that of an introspect. It was a joggle to where my life had actually began. I was consoled at the end of it when I realised that God had been good to me and that I don’t have to be angry with my partner but rather choose how I was going to react to it,either positively or negatively. That was it. I wiped my tears and told myself that I wasn’t going to ruminate about the situation but would rather chose to rise above it and pretend as though nothing happened. That brought a respite to my being and instead of being resentful,I decided to be contented and happy with what life offered me.
Today,the story has changed. I have the car of my dreams and what more. Perseverance,positive belief,and contentment did it for me.
Author,Vivien Greene, said, “Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass,its about learning to dance in the rain.”
You can rise above any situation and become better by first recognizing and acknowledging that you are not a victim but active player and creator of your own playing field and then,by intentionally reconstructing your view.
Its human nature to have a slant toward the negative,it is easy to spot the faults and issues in people and things,the good news is that,if you weren’t born a glass half-full person,you can train yourself to see more of the positives.
Tal Ben Shahar,Positive psychology professor says, “When you appreciate the good,the good appreciates.”