How Do You Spend Your Time? you wasting time on pebbles and sand? Do you spend two or three hours per evening scrolling through all your social media channel feeds,or you sit glued to the television for three hours? Think about it,what else could you spend that time on? If reading a book is important to you,then turn the television off for just one evening per week and spend the time reading a book. Ultimately,prioritizing the use of your time saves you both time and energy.

Television and the internet can be a huge time wasters. It is easy to get sucked into the latest dramas,events,diaries of people and so on. But,if you are serious about focusing on your priorities, whatever they might be,looking for ways to increase your income,learning new skills,attending conferences that will enhance your skill set or perhaps,being better organized,you will need to log out of your social media or turn off the television. If you do not give some thought to your priorities for yourself and your life,you will fritter away the time and resources that are available to you right now.

Once we understand and embrace the relationship between balance and priorities,then we are ready to place our priorities at the center of our existence and our lives in a balanced orbit about these priorities.

I have observed that stress is not a ‘bad’ thing neither is it a ‘good’ thing. It is value-neutral. Having no stress in our lives- no changes,no challenge,no novelty,no responsibility,is literally fatal.

Having only minimal stress is boring while experiencing extreme stress can lead to illness and disability. What we are looking for is the right amount,the perfect balance.

According to a recent Pew survey,time is the highest priority identified by people today. Sixty eight percent of those surveyed said that having enough free time to do things they wanted was a very important priority in their lives. In contrast, only 12 percent said that ” being wealthy” was a very important priority.

If you had gone beyond the threshold of your stress limits and depleted the margin in your life,then you will easily feel overloaded. Fatigue begins to build as you continue and it leads to exhaustion.

Clearly,this cannot be sustained without associated dysfunction.

To recover balance in life you will first need to regain a sense of control.

Priorities can be the gyroscope that keeps returning you from chaos to balance in a world that constantly attempts to abuse your value propositions.

Ask yourself, “Do I have enough flexibility to adapt but not enough firmness to keep the boundaries from crumbling?” The goal is to keep reaching for new discovery and achievement while keeping perspective on the important things of life.

Consider Steve Jobs, American Business Magnate remark at Stanford University 2011 commencement ceremony:

“Remembering that I will be dead soon is the most important thing I have ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life because almost everything-all external expectations,pride,fear of embarrassment of failure- these things just fall away in the face of death leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked.”

An imbalanced life implies stress,disquiteness,and agitation while a balanced life seeks serenity, calmness,and moderation. Speed belongs to the former while depth belongs to the latter.

Lebanese American Poet,Kahlil Gibran puts it this way, “Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future,but from wanting to control it.”

When we do not set priorities so that we can spend our time well,we tend to follow the path of least resistance. That is,picking and sorting through the things we need to do and work on the easiest ones,leaving the more difficult and less fun tasks for a ‘later’ date. That in many cases,never comes,or worse,comes just before the action needs to be finished, throwing us into a whirlwind of activity,stress,and regret.

Do not get frustrated if you need some time to figure out what your priorities are so you can set them straight. Be kind to yourself and remember that it is completely normal for your priorities to change overtime. Eventually, with little bit of patience,you can figure out what is most important and take charge of your life.

The key is not in spending time but in investing it-Stephen Covey

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