Most times,we take relationships for granted.Because of this,we don’t always give them the attention they deserve or require.But good relationships require a lot of effort.To keep me on track in my relationships so that I’m investing in them as I must to make them successful,I practice this discipline: Each day I make the conscious effort to deposit goodwill into my relationship with others.This means I give more than I expect to recieve,love others selflessly and unconditionally,look for ways to add value to others,and bring joy to the relationships I hold dear to my heart.Every evening,before I retire to bed,I evaluate this area of my life by asking myself, “Have I been thoughtful toward people today? Would they express joy that they have spent time with me?” If the answer is in the affirmative,then I’ve done my part.
Now,if you want to improve your relationships through your everyday actions,then do the following:
- Put Others First
The best way to start off on the right foot is to put others first.The most basic way to do that is to practice the golden rule:Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If you take that mindset into all your interactions with others,you can’t go wrong.But there are also other ways to show people they matter and that you are interested in their wellbeing:Walk slowly through the crowd,remember people’s names,smile at everyone,lend a helping hand,meet a dire need.People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.
- Don’t Carry Emotional Baggage
Few things weigh as much as old hurts and offenses carried day after day in a person’s life.If you want to enjoy your time with other people,you ‘ve got to get rid of that kind of stuff.You can’t keep score of old wrongs and expect to make relationships right. If someone has hurt you and you need to address it and get out onto the table,then do it right away.Resolve it and get beyond it.If it’s not worth bringing up,forget about it and move on.
- Give Time To Your Most Valuable Relationships
Most people give away their relational energy on a first-come,first-served basis.Whoever gets their attention first gobbles up their time and relational energy.That is why the squeaky wheels instead of the high producers at work consume so much attention and why so many people have nothing left to give when they get home from work. For instance,your family provides the most valuable relationships in your life.They should come first as you plan to spend your time.After that should come your next most important relationships.It’s a matter of practising good priorities.
- Serve Others Gladly
Sometimes service can be the only thing you have to sell in your business,but it’s the toughest thing to teach because nobody wants to be thought of as a servant.
Helen Keller said, “Life is an exciting business and most exciting when lived for others ” I think that’s true.The longer I live,the more convinced I am that adding value to others is the greatest thing we can do in this life.Because of that,when I serve,I try to do so cheerfully and with the greatest impact.
- Express Love And Appreciation Often
I think many people believe the best way they can help others is to criticize them,to give them the benefit of their “wisdom.” I disagree.The best way to help people is to see the best in them.I want to encourage every person I meet, I want them to know the good I see in them.I practice the 101 percent principle.I look for the one thing I admire in them and give them 100 percent encouragement for it. It helps me to like them.It helps them to like me.And what else could be better for starting a relationship?