Mulling over the past and its misgivings does not lead anywhere but towards a downward slope. Recently,I realised that that there is always a part for us to play when it comes to our life’s fulfilment. When destiny comes calling,it is not the time to begin asking for help,rather it’s time to take action.Take charge of your future,do not allow the past to determine what you can become.
Some few days ago,as I sat on the sofa in the visitors lounge,I was taken aback to my early childhood years. Life indeed brewed its bitter galls on me and I must say,those were most painful and disturbing times. With tears locked up in my eye socket,I made sure it forced it way out as I remembered a period in my life when my parents were separated and mother became helpless.I had no where to rest my head for some time except at a friend’s place. But today,everything has made sense to me. Fate was at work back then and destiny,on it’s own part cannot be changed. Though,I had few important people in my life to blame for everything but I realised that it never added any value but rather made me more resentful,vindictive and bitter. The reality is, I am here and that’s what really count in eternity. The lonesome journey nevertheless,cannot hold back what destiny has in stock for me. It was all part of the process.
It’s time for you to step out from the self- pity,and victim state you have locked yourself in and open up yourself to this noble truth. Truly, everything start and end with your belief system and there are ways you can reset your mind so that you can begin enjoying a worthwhile life. If you are still thinking that your upbringing had a lot to do with your present circumstances, know that is the best route you must take for you to get to where your destiny fulfilment lies. So no matter how ugly/painful or beautiful those memories are,it can never rob you of what destiny holds for you. Now it’s time to ditch the guilt which is the number one enerygy vampire. Though some guilts serve a purpose,like being a way of policing our behavior. Keeping us from doing socially or morally inappropriate things but it shouldn’t tie you down permanently. The next time you feel guilty about yourself. Ask the question,”Is the guilt serving you? Is it spurring you on to do better?” And when you find yourself overburdened with how you think things should have been done,there’s likelihood that your brain will begin to spin. You can learn to redirect your thoughts,to stop thinking about what you should do and tell yourself This is where I am,This is what I am doing right now, I am doing the best I can. And leave it at that.
You have power over your mind not outside events. Realise this and you will find strength.Marcus Aurelius