What’s The Fuss About The Competence Factor?

Competence is like having internal security. You are self-reliant. You trust yourself to make good judgements and decisions and you allow yourself to make mistakes.

Do you have the ability to think,reason,and judge for yourself? Do you have a mind to trust? Do you defer to others most of the time? These are important questions to ponder on as you continue to build a foundation for healthy self-esteem.

Competence builds confidence. You know you are capable,well-grounded,and savvy enough to overcome the obstacles that life presents.

If you think you can do it,that’s self-confidence. If you do it,that’s competence

Morris Code

We all feel overwhelmed and helpless from time to time. However,the competent individual knows these situations are not permanent. He or she is proactive and uses his or her knowledge and ability to initiate solutions.

When someone is over-reliant on others to make choices and also accept their opinions,not allowing room to think independently, then,such person will find it hard to build competence.

As a matter of fact,such a person will need to start thinking for his or her self.

My question is,are you an independent thinker? Do your opinions matter? Are you in the habit of openly expressing yourself?

If you are struggling with the feeling of insecurity and uncertainty, this can be frightening. The way to conquer the fear is to push through anxiety and speak up anyway believing that your opinions have value. If you keep practising this,it will become easier. Eventually,it will be a habit that feels natural.

The test of true competence is the end result.

Ron Hubbard

To keep this in perspective,it’s impossible to be competent in all areas of your life and you don’t need to be. A person who has been out of the job market for eight years may not feel competent re-entering the workforce. However, he or she shines in another area.

Inorderwords, do yourself a favor- lighten up,you can’t be great at everything.

Moving forward,here’s what will build the competence level for you(if you must)

  • Experience life fully- Participate.
  • Understand that unexpected challenges teaches you resilience.
  • Take responsibility- Think for yourself.
  • Make your own choices and decisions.
  • Improve your skills- Keep learning.
  • Trust yourself.

If you have younger ones around you,try to allow them become decision-makers. Let them take some risks and make mistakes. By doing so,you are building in them self-believe in their capabilities.

Children who learn to be responsible for themselves build their own level of competence.

Competence is such a rare bird in the woods that I always appreciate it when I see it.

Frank Underwoods,
House of Cards.