When deep pain finds us,we often feel very alone.Pain runs so deep that it has a way of isolating us especially in this culture of social media where everyone’s best foot is always forward(or at least the illusion of a best foot). Individually and collectively,we avoid pain. And the experience of it,along with the obvious hurts can make us feel like we are failing ,uniquely struggling to cope with the deep sorrow of tragedy.
One of my mentors shared his truly inspiring story with me sometime ago. He went on, “One of the shocking things about my wife’s miscarriage was that it opened our eyes to how many women struggle with miscarriage and how prevalent infertility issues are. Most people aren’t flying flags of prenatal loss. It is one of those relatively hidden hurts. When she had her experience,it was like being let into sad sorority,a tragic fraternity of sorrow and pain. Our hearts ached for these numerous others who were experiencing the same tragedy we were. And an amazing thing happened- the people who had gone through it served us(with helpful advice, empathy and the general feeling that we weren’t the only ones).
And then,a truly amazing thing happened. After our ordeal,we started to meet more people struggling and had a chance to talk to them about what they are going through. There is some comfort in someone emphatizing with your pain.” He concluded. What more could I say. Truly touching.
Our struggles are an opportunity not just for us to gain a true perspective or for us to grow and learn and presevere. Our trials qualify us to love and serve others. They invite us into unique opportunities to care for a hurting world.
Who in your life is hurting? Why not reach out and emphatize with them. It often pays to be kind towards others.
“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.” – John Holmes