Here’s the story of Jacqueline,a young girl in my fellowship. “Life had not turned out the way I had hoped and planned. And I wasn’t happy about it. In fact, I was discontent with everything. It’s not that I wanted “more,” I just wanted “different.” I found myself feeling stuck in a life I didn’t…More
Is Refinancing A Home A Poor Idea?
Suze Orman said, “Owning a home is a keystone of wealth -both financial affluence and emotional security.” Dr. Sarit Levy is the director of marketing and advertising at Network Capital. She’s equally a subject matter expert,a faculty at NYU formerly University of Miami,a C-suite executive,and a thought leader. She was with Omobola Stephen on life…More
Why change can only happen if you develop the right mindset
Mind is a flexible mirror. Adjust it to see a better world. – Amit Ray, Mindfulness. Living in the moment. Living in the breath. Dee Woolridge is a success coach, hypnotherapist, Spiritual counselor and award winning author. She was with Omobola Stephen and they had a great conversation on the subject of mindset,confidence, spirituality,hypnosis and…More
Is This Truly The Life You want to live?
Leanne Villani,a life coach, and podcast host said, “Results don’t lie.” Succinctly put. This means that life is all about results. Every effort put into something will automatically yield results either positive or negative. Sometimes,we may put in our very best into something and at the end, have no results to show for it. And…More
Why childhood trauma can sabotage your relationships if healing hasn’t taken place.
If you have ever been abused emotionally, physically,psychologically, and verbally etc as a child, it would be appropriate to say you have gone through childhood trauma. Almost 98% of adults living on planet Earth have been through this phase. However,if you haven’t found healing ,it maybe difficult to lead a healthy life.Suffice it to say,have…More
How To Be Fulfilled In Your Career And Business
As Rick Warren rightly puts, “Service starts in your mind.” To be a great staff,boss or leader,it requires a mental shift,a change in your attitudes.” How does this happen? What are the beliefs that needs to be eroded? What are the strategies that needs to be implemented inorder for change to happen and to be…More
Learning To Rise Above Opposition
No matter what you do,you will always have critics. This is true because some people cannot bear to see others succeed.When you aren’t doing anything,you are not a problem for them; but when you start fulfilling your dreams and visions,you will attract attention. People don’t care about you until you start doing something big. This…More
Why you must build a culture of courage
Courage is not the absence of fear but rather the commitment to overcome it. Courage doesn’t mean you are not afraid. It means you battle against your fear and confront it.Courage pushes you to resist the impulse to shy away from the things that stir up your innermost anxieties. Courage is required and must be…More
Your New Identity in God Comes With Responsibility
Have you ever been told to “Be on guard?” Sure! I have been told several times especially when I’m driving to an outskirt / suburb. Perhaps,when I’m at a large gathering either for a particular event or during a shopping spree. It’s easy to forget oneself and be carried away by what’s happening in our…More
The Value In Serving Others With Your Potentials
Potential can never be attained if it has no opportunity to give. Ask me why and I will tell you. John F. Kennedy,while he was about to be inaugurated to be the president of the United States said, “Ask not what your country can do for you ,but what you can do for your country.”…More
Helping Others To Heal
When deep pain finds us,we often feel very alone.Pain runs so deep that it has a way of isolating us especially in this culture of social media where everyone’s best foot is always forward(or at least the illusion of a best foot). Individually and collectively,we avoid pain. And the experience of it,along with the obvious…More
Dealing With Personal Insecurities
Personal Insecurities could be defined as a feeling of general unease or nervousness that may be triggered by perceiving of oneself to be vulnerable or inferior in some way, or a sense of vulnerability or instability which threatens one’s self-image or sense of pride. Personal insecurity may be linked to mental health.One which needs to be dealt with…More
Taking Back Ownership Of Your Life
I remembered some few years ago,while I was struggling with insecurities and low self-acceptance.That period was the most traumatic of my life. I was out of touch with the stark realities that were staring at my face. How I wished I had listened to my intuition. How I wished my emotions were controlled. How I…More
MOVING IN THE OPPOSITE SPIRIT
Living according to the “opposite spirit” means acting contrary to what is expected in our world. The Holy Spirit living in us allows us to move in the opposite spirit of what we naturally want to do in our flesh. As God moves on our behalf, He fights the battle for us in the spiritual…More
LOVING ALL PIECES OF YOURSELF
Laurie Herbers is an empowerment coach and author. Her journey to self discovery is amazing after she suffered emotional abuse as a child. However,she has chosen to turn all the pain of her past to power and to love all pieces of herself inspite.She has an inspiring journey to share. Life well lived by Omobola…More
OVERCOMING ABUSE WITH A POSITIVE MINDSET
Life well lived by Omobola Stephen had an interview with Win Charles, a cerebral palsy patient. She is the host of Ask Win,a podcast on celebrating life with people from different walks of life. However,she has rose above this difficulty to become one of the fast rising enterpreneurs the world has ever recorded. Her positve…More
LAUNCHING YOUR BUSINESS
Erika Stoerkel is a lead generation and launch strategist consultant. As a Certified Online Business Manager, she helps her clients take their zone of genius which they have built into their course and create a launch strategy to increase marketing and sales. Here is an excerpt interview discussion she had with Life Well lived by Omobola…More
THE POWER OF FEMININE LEADERSHIP
Emine Mehmet is an energy intuitive and sacred feminine leadership mentor. She is base in Sydney Australia. Life Well lived by mobola Stephen had a worthwhile discussion with her on feminine leadership. Here is an excerpt. LWL: Can we meet you? EM: My name is Emine Mehmet. I am an energy intuitive and sacred feminine…More
The Power Of the Mind
The thoughts that pass through your mind are responsible for almost everything that happens in your life. Not all thoughts are equal. Stray ones that you think once or twice cannot do much, but your predominant thoughts, the ones you repeat often, influence your behavior and attitude, affect your actions and reactions, and shape your…More
Responsibility Lessons
How good are you about taking care of the small stuff? That really is the prerequisite for being given responsibility for the big stuff. And even if you are being entrusted with huge responsibilities, you must not neglect details in your primary area of responsibility. You also never outgrow the need for responsibilities for small…More
Working on The Stickiness Mentality In Your Relationships
Courage is the power to let go of the familiar. Raymond Lindquist. Relationships can suck when we don’t know how to manage them. And when it comes to closeness in relationships, it is relative. Some people see being overly close as too sticky and they want to resent you for that. Now,if you want to…More
Putting Your Emotions In Check
If you feel like a volcano ready to erupt with anger,it’s not a good time to set a boundary. Anger or any other intense emotion polarizes communication. We use attacking languages or we start whinning like a victim.Often that triggers a similar reaction in the other person and a fight ensues. It’s impossible to think…More
Delegating Responsibilities
Today,creating a happy family life is all about sharing responsibilities and having fun together. Not asking for help with the chores implies that you are accepting responsibility for them,and you end up pleading for assistance rather than having a well- defined agreement in place. Sharing is a much healthier concept,and it will help you maintain…More
Accepting The Total Package
Every hour…every minute…every second of your day is important, and no matter what you are doing at what time, you should always see that moment as yours to keep forever. Each part of the day is equally as important as the other, so do not categorize each activity or each task that you need to…More
Staying True To You
Are you ready to be authentic in your life,or do you want to play it safe hiding behind your self-imposed limitations? Are you ready to become more real than you ‘ve ever been? That means giving up the superficial games you play,games that keep the real you hidden. Everyone play this game but most people…More
You Find Him,I’ll Fix Him
“I can fix her though she has temper problem. I’ll fix him though he is overly aggressive.” No one can make it happen except me. She feels so secured in my world and I am so certain she can become better.” If she doesn’t afterall. This is a rescue fantasy. Do you really think you…More
Give Change A Chance
Sometimes we rush headlong into change and it’s not always helpful. Thanks to technology,we live in a super-fast world of modems,emails,Internet,cell phones,and handheld organizers.This has it’s advantages. The downside is that when we want something, we want it instantly. Our pace of life is changing dramatically. Where has the patience and the ability to wait…More
Believing The Lie
So the other day,I with my Godmother got talking about life especially as it concerns relationships and marriages. This was for me an eye-opener as she went on,”Deception is satan’ s greatest weapon in achieving his destructive purpose for marriage. If he can get husbands and wives to believe and act on his lies,he will…More
Being Happy Inspite.
Maintaining happiness is essentially a state of your mind. Why do we wait for tragedy,such as the loss of a loved one or serious illness to occur before we realize that happiness is about living now,appreciating every moment,every hour and everyday? It seems to be part of the human condition. Often we are blind to…More
The Essence of Relationships
If you are looking forward to having a relationship which brings fulfillment, you will need to change your mindset when it comes to dealing with others. Here are some ways you can do that: Learn to understand people Many people care about others,but they still remain out of touch. In those cases,I think the problem…More
Feel Stuck In A Familiar Pattern
Are you stuck in repeating patterns? It is impossible to change your life if you keep on doing the same old things over and over again. Some people just keep recycling the same old rubbish. Julie keeps dating the wrong type of men. Tony runs from one financial mess to another. Babara gets fired from…More
Knowing What Truly Matters
Whether you try hard to fit in or you try too hard to stand out,it is of equal consequence: You exhaust your significance. Criss Jami,Healology Which is more important to you, success or significance in what you do? To me,significance is more important . Success rewards my bank account,but having significant,meaningful work rewards my spirit.…More
Value Each Day
If you want to maximize your talent and fulfil your life’s dream,you need to make every action count. You must determine where you want to go and how to get there. People who are undecided about what they want to do or where they want to go cannot tap into their strenght of will or…More
Finding Time For You
When last did you give yourself a treat? Taking a day off for yourself. I mean, a ‘me’ time. This is what I call self-care. Self-care is everything you do to nurture your mind and soul. Self-care is different for everyone. For me,it can be writing my long-term goals journal,listening to a favorite music on…More
Born for Something
Each one of us is born with a unique talent and our function in life is to express it.You were born for something. What is it?Are you born to rule? Born to create? Born to bring people together?Born to talk? Born to lead? Or perhaps born to write just like me?Really,this is where your calling…More
Getting Out Of Your Head
Have you ever been trapped at a party enduring a lengthy,overly cerebral discussion full of obscure facts and figures? Incredibly boring. The talk amounts to analysis to the point of paralysis. And throughout the entire episode,not one flicker of emotion escapes from this bland conversationalist. If you have,you just had an encounter with The Intellectual.…More
Enjoying The Simple Pleasures Of Life
Why does hapiness seem so elusive? Because many of us are looking for it in the wrong places. Too often,we think the answer lies out there in the pursuit of material possesions. Like, If we buy a bigger home,somehow that will make our pain- filled marriage better or when we get a bonus at work,…More
On Resentment-Conecting The Dots
Resentment is an understatement of the pain and anger experienced whenever memories of infidelity,betrayal,or hurts caused by the people in our lives come to mind. Even after a reasonable time has passed for reconciliation, resentment often lingers. All might be forgiven,but forgetting may never happen. Resentment as an energy vampire, is insidious and directly affects…More
To The Woman Out There-Playing The Standards And Expectations Game
Think about it. This is a touchy subject for some people especially perfectionists. Now,I’m not suggesting you lower your standards,just re-frame them in the context of living as a woman in today’s real world. Let go of the attitude that, “I’m the only one who can do the right.” What drives some women crazy is…More
Getting Rid Of Illusions As A Perfectionist.
Perfectionism is rampant today. No wonder so many career-driven people are unhappy. On the outside they appear to have it all – success,great lifestyle,fabulous looks.However,on the inside it’s a different story. In many cases they feel desperate,frustrated and unhappy. Peace of mind and a sense of satisfaction elude them. Striving to be perfect all the…More
Working On Your Self-Image
Self-Image is the package you have assigned yourself.It is built on your life experience-How you have interpreted what others said. How they treat you,what you told yourself. Your self-image may or may not be accurate,yet it forms your personal beliefs. A belief is anything we hold to be true. Most of our beliefs are formed…More
Establishing good communication When Setting Boundaries
Whether at work or at home,good communication is important when you are setting healthy boundaries with others.This technique will assist you in being clear when expressing what you want. When… (describe the behavior) I feel…(describe your feelings) I want…( state what you want) For example, When you come home from work you disappear into your…More
Turning People Down
Exercising your “No” muscle may be all you need when you want to preserve healthy boundaries. I’ve been flexing my No muscle for several years now and have almost mastered it. Although my need to feel useful sometimes gets in the way and a Yes slips out.However,most of the time,I’m dynamite at saying No. It’s…More
Managing Your Motherly Role
The family dynamics has dramatically changed. Compared to the pace experienced by our grandmothers and even our mothers. Life today is faster and more demanding. More than 68 percent of women now have jobs. Employers require higher levels of commitment and performance, and kids are involved in more extracurricular activities.Women routinely add the job of…More
Developing A Positive Outlook To Life.
Now,here are practical and proven ways to help you live a positive life. Ignore what others say Whilst we want others to like us and we try to impress many people,it is so important for you to ignore anything you believe other people may say or think about you.People who react or speak negatively about…More
To The One Who Fathered You
Anyone can father a child, but being a dad takes a lifetime. Fathers play a role in every child’s life that cannot be filled by others. This role can have a large impact on a child and help shape him or her into the person they become. Fathers and Emotional Development Fathers, like mothers, are…More
Take Enough Time For Yourself
Some people think that taking time for themselves will affect their performance. That’s right,it will- For the better. Some companies even insist their employees do this because they know the benefits that rejuvenation can have on the bottom line.Creative ideas most often originates during down time. And often, these set of people drive themselves beyond…More
Your Words Are Shaping Your World
“Now don’t you go getting any ideas,Tom; Don’t you get any ideas either,Terry; Don’t you two get any ideas.” The young mother’s words to her small children echoed in my head for several days. While I realized she was probably warning them not to do something against her wishes or something that could harm them.…More
Developing Self-Compassion
Everyone is human. We all make mistakes that needs to be forgiven. By forgiving yourself,you are choosing love over judgement. That’s a good choice. You are also sending notice that moving on with your life is more important than remaining in the emotional prison of self-condemnation. As painful and uncomfortable as it may feel,there are…More
Is Your Relationship Solid Enough?
There are a couple of good ways to tell whether a relationship is positive or negative. The first is to note whether a person makes you feel better or worse about yourself. The second relates to how much energy the relationship requires. In his book,High Maintenance Relationships, Les Parrot identifies the types of people who…More
Why Humility is not an act of weakness
How do you grow in humility? I know of two(2) ways: One is hard and the other one stinks. The first and hard one is to value humility so much that you develop a distaste for pride and start seeking it intentionally. Let’s talk a bit about pride. To pride in oneself is not bad…More
